My name is Shamim, and I have been an approved foster carer for Welcome Foster Care since September 2014. In this time, I have fostered many different children from a variety of backgrounds and with varying needs. I love to make a difference in children’s lives by becoming a full time foster carer and I have the time and availability to make sure that I listen to children and young people and make them feel part of my family home.
Although I have fostered children of varying ages, I love babies. When my youngest child was one years of age and I had decided that I was happy and content with four children running around in the house, at the same time it saddened me knowing that I will not be holding my very own little “bundles of joys” anymore….and as we all know, children grow up very quickly. I remember putting my washing up in the garden and seeing my babies little baby grows flying around in the cool air. I knew in my heart then that this is the last time I will have those baby grows on my washing line. It made my heart feel so heavy that I wanted to capture that moment forever and take a lot of pictures of my washing line.
After that, the time came when my babies had their own babies and I became a grandmother and I was once again filled with happiness in my heart. I was holding a little bundle of joy again. My daughter and her baby son stayed with me for five weeks but once again time flew by and she left to go home and took my grandson back with her to enjoy motherhood, just like I did….
Eventually I had six grandchildren and they are all so lovely and a pleasure to have around at the weekends and on special occasions. Whenever they come over to visit, my house is full of life but then they go back to their homes with their parents.
A few years ago my husband tragically passed away with cancer and my house was so quiet and lifeless and I felt that I needed a new purpose in life.
One day I saw a stall set up at a shopping centre for “Welcome Foster Care” and I immediately had a desire to have a child in my life again and give her or him a place in my home and a place in my heart. Welcome Foster Care provided me with all the essential training I needed to become a professional foster carer and since I had my first foster child, I have never looked back. I found the purpose of my life again. My house became full of joy and happiness. I loved all the foster children I cared for from the bottom of my heart. My children and grandchildren always welcome foster children in their homes and in their heart. They could see how fostering has had a positive effect on me and makes me so happy and how in turn I help foster children progress in life.
I had initially thought that fostering is about caring for only young children or teenagers, however in my fostering career to date, I have looked after children and young people from age 0 to 35 years of age as not many people know that you can also have “Parent and Child” placements which I love as yet again I have that opportunity to hold little bundle of joys in my hands again and support a young mother with learning how to care for their baby. It does mean a lot of hard work, supervision and dedication as I often have to wake up and stay up at nights to feed babies or support a young mother with feeding their baby, but holding that baby makes all my tiredness vanish when that little smile appears on their face while they are dreaming in my arms. I find it very satisfying and rewarding. I also teach the new mothers how to bond and care for their little ones. I show them how to massage and bath the baby, how to breastfeed the baby, how to change the baby’s nappy and how to stimulate and engage the baby in play. An important part is also that I teach the young mother how to look after themselves during and after pregnancy, as one must not forget that a baby needs a healthy and happy mother. It is so rewarding to pass on my knowledge of bringing up four children and six grandchildren to young mothers. Now my washing line always has baby grows flying swiftly in the little breeze….
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